How many times have you sabotaged yourself with negative thoughts or limiting beliefs?
Doing this isn’t at all uncommon, if anything – it’s too common. Most of us struggle with recurring negative thoughts that undermine our confidence, self-esteem, and overall outlook on life. And what we believe about ourselves creates our reality: because you create your own reality – or so does your mind. Our thoughts shape the way we feel and act, which in turn creates the opportunities we are able to manifest and dreams we are able to fulfil. The problem starts when our negative thoughts start to affect that, since we view the world through our mental attitude. If that attitude is mostly negative, it can impact our lives significantly.
How to overcome negative thinking?
Your beliefs are mostly the habitual thinking patterns that you learned as a child. And many of them probably work very well for you in one way or another. However some may be limiting your ability to attract the very things you say you want in your life. Paying attention to our thoughts and starting to acknowledge the patterns and beliefs we operate in is crucial so that we begin to eliminate the ones which create negative outcomes. According to Louise Hay, who dedicated her life to teaching people how to live a positive and empowered life, often with the aid of positive statements and beliefs, which she called affirmations, your point of power is always in the present moment. That is where you plant the mental seeds for creating new experiences.
The power of thoughts
And what exactly are affirmations? Put simply, every thought you think and every word you speak is an affirmation. All of the self-talk, the dialogue in your head – they are all affirmations. You’re using affirmations every moment whether you know it or not. And by doing that, you’re affirming and creating your life experiences with every word and thought. These ongoing affirmations are messages to your subconscious that establish habitual ways of thinking and behaving. Positive affirmations create healing thoughts and ideas that support you in developing self-confidence and self esteem, and creating the life you want, while negative thoughts create more negativity and let-downs.
As Dr. David Schechter explains:
Just as we do repetitive physical exercise to get stronger, affirmations can be thoughts of as exercise for our mind. Positive affirmations require regular practice if you want to make lasting, long-term changes to the ways that you think and feel.
Positive affirmations are based on widely accepted and well-established psychological theory and studies – they can help us develop lasting changes and a more optimistic way of looking at ourselves. Affirmations are a research-backed method of scaling to the top of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs: self-esteem and self-actualization. MRI evidence also suggests that our neural pathways are increased when practicing self-affirmations.
Affirmations: where to start?
Repeating positive statements is not enough to create lasting changes that will affect your life and the possibilities that show up for you. If you want to become a more positive person, you need to change your overall perspective on life. Starting a practice of self-affirmations is powerful, but it’s not enough – you need to instill new habits, thought patterns, values, and behaviors. To do that, you first need to be able to notice and observe many of your own through processes and actions. A great start to become more aware is starting a mindfulness or meditation practice, which will help you be more in the present moment and more in tune with yourself.
Create your own affirmation: a guide
Wondering how to create your own affirmations? By using the guidelines below, you can transform limp affirmations from sentences you repeat without believing in what you say into mantras for manifesting what you want in your life. Here’s a couple of tips:
- First of all, start with the words “I am.” These are the two most powerful words in the English language.
- Use the present tense. Start your affirmation by entering the present tense. Take the condition you desire and declare it to be already true.
- Be positive. Do not focus on what you do not want. Where attention goes, energy flows – positive or negative! So be clear and focus on what you do want to attarct.
- Keep it short. Shorter is better. Affirmations with fewer words are often easier to recall and you want to be sure and comfortable with repeating your statement.
- Include at least one dynamic emotion or feeling word. Powerful affirmations include emotion, as it gets to the heart of how you feel about that outcome.
Here are also some examples of powerful affirmations you may find inspiring:
I am at home in the universe. Every person, place, and thing on this planet is interconnected with love.
I am patient, tolerant, and loving.
I am worth loving. There is love all around me.
I am pain-free, and totally in sync with life.
I forgive myself and set myself free.
I am supported. Life supports me in every possible way.
I experience love wherever I go.
I choose to feel good about myself each day. Every morning I remind myself that I can make the choice to feel good.
I deserve all my needs and desires to be met.
I rise above negative feelings and ditch negative thoughts.
I am liberating myself from fear, judgment, and doubt.
I am in charge of my thoughts, and I don’t judge myself.
I accept and love myself, thoroughly and completely.
I’m fine with who I am, and I love who I am becoming.
We hope these examples serve as inspiration for expanding your consciousness and cultivating deeper awareness. Working with affirmations can be a beautiful and powerful way of developing greater self-awareness, self-love, and create meaningful and lasting changes in how you interact with and think of yourself.